I’ve recently written about the death of Lucy Meadows, it shocked me to my boots, being transgender myself and struggling for many years with pain and anxiety I have an idea of what she must have been going through.
Today I stumbled on an article in the Guardian written by Paris Lees editor of Meta Magazine. The article she has written paints a very bleak but accurate picture of transgender life for many and the way we face issues that cannot be imagined by ‘normal people’.
The article features grim stats such as
84% of trans respondents had thought about ending their lives – 27% of those in the previous week. Of those who had considered suicide, 48% had made an attempt
Talks about fears and phobias many I face each day –
How the corner shop seems too much to face? How you lock yourself in the kitchen to block out the knocking on the front door? How you wonder why it even matters what the people in the shop think – why you shouldn’t go in a dress one day and a suit the next? Why someone might abuse you in the street? Questions proliferate, answers don’t
The article concludes with a dream
I dream of a world where people are judged not by the space between their legs but by that between their ears
It made me think once again, how on earth transgender people can become simply part of the wall paper? Almost each and every sector of society is at very least tolerated, accepted, in part if only because they are part of the wall paper of life. Yet transgender people live in so much fear and struggle with a condition that is such a normal variance of birth, however problematic and painful it is to the many who have to work through it. How can so much of the burden be lifted from our lives, enough so we can simply get well and live a life we were born to live. How do we earn the right to blend in to life.
I started to think about the whole problem and resolved once again to believe that transgender people need to simply come out together, be seen as a body of valuable people in our diverse society. But how, when so many are locked away (more than most appreciate). Yes there is Sparkle, but I’ve been involved enough in Sparkle to understand it’s unwritten meaning … no, it needs a serious, real organisation a real annual rally or something that fights hard for transpeople to simply become another aspect of society. I am sure I can speak for most – we do not want to be a part of the underworld but a part of the real world.
I’ve said it before and I will say it again – “We want to be judged for the content of our character not the shade of out gender”
Any ideas let me know…..we all should be thinking of a solution and acting instead of living in fear. I try to employ old sayings of empowerment like “What’s the worst that can happen” but with transgender people we know that bad things can happen, but as a group as a body of people surely we can at least give ourselves a fighting chance of a ‘regular’ life.
I suppose it’s all about simply doing it … we all should simply do more. But I also understand how bloody hard and frightening it is…very very hard.